No Motive

I don't always embrace Dale Carnegie's writings (I find some of his examples dated and lacking a sense of aggression one may need to use in today's world), but his advice on "How to Make People Like You Instantly" should be a principle that you embed under you skin.  It should be a way of life for you, not a tactic to get someone to like you, to sell something to someone, none of those....just a simple way of life.  It's not hard....just be nice and appreciate the people who are around you, make them feel important and show your appreciation for them.  I don't have a scenario to write about that tells you who and how and what I tried on this subject.  But, what I do have is information about people who I don't even know outside of a casual conversations.  Lets take the young man that rolls around in his wheelchair around campus everyday.  How many of you have actually stopped to talk  with him?  Did you smile at him?  Anything?  My guess is 9 out of 10 people walk pass this young man everyday and never say one thing, just as they did with the little nerdy guy that sat all alone in the reading lab this past summer.  How do I know these guys you may ask, because I spoke to them, I smiled at them, I made them feel good about themselves, I talked to them about what they liked, asked what they were studying, I gave them compliments about their clothing, I made them feel important.  Steve is very bright, has great goals, and is hoping to roll himself into CSU next year, while my buddy Gordon is shy and withdrawn from others, he plans to be artist.  You see, it's not always about you...it's always about the other person.  So, before you take out to accomplish your tasks today remember to say "Thank you", remember to "Smile", and remember if you want to earn other people's respect and friendship you have to show a sincere interest in them.